Overall, I like things to be natural. I rarely wear make-up or spend time fixing my hair. And as the years pass and I get more and more gray hairs, I'm determined not to dye it (I have NEVER dyed my hair). We'll see if I follow through on that... but I think my silver hairs are really pretty. They're the shiny kind, not the dull grey.
Anyway, I also try to avoid taking medicine whenever possible. Fortunately, I don't have any serious illnesses or conditions that require me to take medicine regularly (for which I'm grateful). But when I get a headache, I try things like laying down for a nap, drinking water, eating, etc. before I take an Aleve.
Now, these are just my personal opinions and preferences. I don't look down on those who wear make-up, dye their hair, take medication, etc. I just don't like to do these things myself.
That being said, I've always leaned towards natural childbirth. I was pretty sure I didn't want an epidural, but I didn't know much past that. After becoming pregnant, I've done more research into the methods that are out there. Jeff and I have decided on the Bradley method, also known as husband-coached childbirth.
The overall idea is that childbirth is natural and our bodies are made to handle it. However, we need to learn how to give birth. This is aided by good nutrition, exercising and strengthening specific muscles as well as learning what to expect during labor and what you can/should do during each phase. And it's referred to as husband-coached because your husband learns along with you and coaches you through the labor.
Jeff and I started reading the book about the Bradley method together. I don't agree with everything they say, but I do like the overall philosophy. But some of the exercise descriptions in the book were confusing and difficult to follow. And since this is our first child, we decided that we wanted more instruction than the book alone could provide. So we signed up to take a class.
This past week we started our 12-week course of Bradley classes. They are held in the home of our instructor Alyssa (pronounced Alysha) on Thursday nights. There were originally going to be four couples, but everyone else either backed out or forgot, so right now we get private instruction!
In addition to the 12 classes, we have daily and weekly homework assignments. I have to fill out a daily pregnancy nutrition journal documenting everything I eat. This is actually good for me, knowing that someone else will be looking over it each week. I know I should eat better than I do... I also have daily exercises, some of which Jeff helps me with. And we have weekly reading assignments to complete as well. It will take a little while for me to work them into my daily routine and remember to do everything, but I'm committed to making it work.
It's been interesting to hear the different reactions I get when I tell people that I want an unmedicated, natural childbirth. I'm surprised by all of the fear and negativity that seems to surround giving birth. Some experienced mothers tell me that I think that now, but I'll probably change my mind during delivery. Others think I'm crazy, or vow "I could never do that." A few are supportive or have done it themselves.
The way I see it, I'm not going into this blindly. I'm preparing myself physically and mentally for a natural childbirth. I know that a complication could arise and I may need medication or an emergency C-section - this is why I'm giving birth in a hospital - but I hope it doesn't come to that.
I hope I haven't offended anyone. I firmly believe that each woman should research and find out what is best for her. As for me, I'm going to give natural childbirth a try.
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You will find that even once this baby is out, everyone will have an opinion about what you do with her - what you feed her, how to have her sleep, breastfeeding or not, etc etc. I learned that I would listen to advice (because there is good advice out there) and then I would decide what is best for me and my family. That goes with childbirth too. We all have different opinions and we have the right to do what we feels is best. So, if natural childbirth is right for you - go for it. I am one of those "oh I could never do that" people, but I admire women who do. Best wishes!
Way to go, girl!! I agree with you wholeheartedly. I am not pregnant but someday when I am, I will definitely be giving birth naturally. I've even done some research on midwives and birthing centers. When I tell people how I feel, I get the same reaction you do. Most of it is really negative and people try to "scare" me out of it. Rarely are people supportive of it. I truly admire your strength and because you are preparing yourself, you will be totally ready going into it. I'm behind you 100%!!
I am definitely a fan of natural childbirth, and I read the Bradley book, too. I hope it all goes really smoothly for you. I was surprised at how well it went once I was "in the groove." I wouldn't say it was easy, but it was definitely do-able. Worst part? Getting stitched up afterward, even with the Litocaine. Especially because I already had that baby, so I thought I was done. Just be prepared to not be done when you think you'll be done. :)
I totally applaud your decision to go natural, Christine. It definitely sounds like the best thing for your body and your childbirth experience. I support any "informed" person who makes that decision (meaning they know what to expect, either from books, a class, etc., and don't just assume they won't want drugs), just as I would hope that others would respect that that wasn't what was best for me (nope, did not want to do over 30 hours of labor and 2 1/2 hours of pushing without drugs....:P). Rachel's exactly right--you'll get a LOT of advice (I know, and a bunch of it from me), both during the pregnancy and after your baby's born. Listen to it all, but ultimately you get to decide what is right for you and your children. Good luck!
Good for you! I had an epidural with my first, which I'm very grateful for because it ended up being a very long labor (27 hours). With my second I just went through the pregnancy assuming I would have an epidural again because it went well the first time. Well, I progressed faster with baby number two and never got the epidural so I ended up having a natural childbirth experience that I really wasn't prepared for. It wasn't as bad as I feared, but I know it could have been a lot better had I actually prepared myself for it. I'm glad you're taking the time to educate and prepare yourself and I hope you have a wonderful birthing experience!
Congratulations to you and Jeff! I did the Bradley method with all three kids, but on the first one, I asked for an epidural at the last minute. It failed, and that was BAD NEWS for me. I ended up delivering him naturally anyway, and I delivered the last two naturally also. It is LABOR for a reason. It's hard work. I really enjoyed natural childbirth. It was beautiful and well worth the preparation. Focal point is everything. (I agree with Rachel. Listen to everyone, then do what is right for you.)
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